Review of The Kids Are All Right

This was a very good movie, with excellent performances, especially from Paul Ruffalo and Annette Bening. It forces you to think while watching it about the structure of the family, gay marriage, love and whether gay people are really gay. The big problem with the movie is the message it aspires to pass on the audience. For most of the movie the sperm donor is presented as a very likable character, one who really cares about his children and even about the two mothers. At the same time one of the two lesbian mothers is being presented as a control freak, a rather malicious human being. The other woman falls for the sperm donor and has continuous passionate sex with him. The man falls in love with her and tells her so. But then the movie ends with the man's being labeled - by all the other protagonists and the writer/director - as "a bad human being", as the one who is to blame for what happened. It would have been much better if the film ended with Moore's character leaving the control freak and finally finding true love with the sperm donor.